What do you do when you have identified as a monogamous person your whole life and then that begins to come into question?

Queerplatonic partnerships (QPPs) are non-romantic intimate partnerships between two or more people. Who says the most significant love of your life has to be romantic? Queering relationships means thinking critically about where your ideas of what relationships “should” look like according to societal standards, and creating a structure that works for you.

The language of “coming out” implies that by coming out we’re acknowledging that we’re something on the outside of the norm, leaving ourselves open to the judgments & reactions of others within the norm. However, there is another way to understand coming out: you’re allowing yourself to be seen in the truth you already know.

Check out G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn talking with Jay Deitcher at HuffPost about whether it’s ever okay to break up with someone online or over text.

Grief is complicated, limitless, and ever changing. It asks us to look at the pain of endings in our lives and cradle it tenderly even in the face of the oppressive systems that demand we work through seasons of loss, painful remembrance, and spiritual exhaustion.

Check out G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn talking with Gabrielle Kassel at Women’s Health about the different types of infidelity, and how to recognize and heal from betrayal.

We know that dating is hard, though, and that we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to “get it right.” While there’s no wrong way to show up as yourself, we wanted to help take some of the pressure off for those times you’re getting ready for your next first date.

Every relationship experiences conflict–not just romantic relationship ones either. Think of your other social, platonic, professional, or familial relationships–there have been moments of conflict in those too right? Learning to navigate conflict in a healthy way is crucial for developing and sustaining healthy relationships.

Check out G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn talking with Jay Deitcher at Vox about how to stay friends with your ex.

The one penis policy is precisely what it sounds like–it means within a relationship there can be one penis. One of the reasons OPP is viewed negatively within polyamorous communities, particularly queer ones, is because of the dynamic the OPP typically implies within heteronormative relationships.

While safe words are thought of mainly as something used in kink spaces, incorporating them into your sex life can be a good practice for anyone, including people who aren’t interested in exploring kink! Here are the basics of what you need to know.

Like gender or sexuality–there’s an entire spectrum of relationship formats out there. We’ve put together the following list on some of the most common open relationship formats, and what they mean.

Whether you need help getting to the root of your shame before reaching out, or just need the assurance that overcoming that shame is possible, we’ve got you covered. We also have practical information including choosing a modality, how to find an affirming therapist, and what you should do to prepare for your first therapy session–whether in person or virtual.

When you're overwhelmed, you cannot live fully in the present moment and enjoy all the good things about being different, such as hot sex, your chosen family, your community, and various other moments of queer joy. So here are some mindfulness tips to bring you back to the present when you feel overwhelmed.