G&STC Director Jesse Kahn Talks with Marj Ostani at MBG Relationships about 9 Signs You May Be Bisexual
Check out G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn talking with Marj Ostani at MBG Relationships about what bisexuality is, signs you may be bisexual and misconceptions to avoid.
"In the past, we commonly thought of bisexuality as being 'attracted to both sexes,' but this more contemporary definition offers and honors gender identity over biological sex and is more inclusive in that way," Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, CST, sex therapist and director at the Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, tells mbg.
"Ultimately, each person will relate to and define their sexuality differently," Kahn adds. "It's about what words mean to you and your communities, and why that word choice is most accurate or meaningful to you."
"If you're having a hard time figuring out your sexuality, just remember that there's no rush to figure anything out and that coming into your sexuality is a fluid experience that can change over your lifetime," Kahn reminds.
More from G&STC Director Jesse Kahn on this topic:
I've seen a few popular definitions for bisexuality. They include attraction to people of your gender and other genders, attraction to multiple genders, and/or being attracted to two or more genders. Ultimately, each person may relate to and define their bisexuality differently. It's about what it means to you and why that word choice is most accurate or meaningful to you.
Some common and incorrect misconceptions include: the idea that bi people are just confused or are actually gay, that bisexuality being a stepping stone to being gay, that bisexuality people are only attracted to cisgender people, and that bi people more likely to break boundaries and agreements about monogamy in their partnerships.
It can be hard to figure out one's sexuality in a culture that celebrates straightness and it can hard to figure out one’s bisexuality in a culture that celebrates straightness and also erases bisexuality. If you’re having a hard time figuring out your sexuality, just remember that there’s no rush to figure anything out and that coming into your sexuality is a fluid experience that can change over your lifetime. A large part of realizing one’s sexuality often involves unlearning heterocentric and queer-phobic cultural narratives and beliefs that we’ve all internalized while creating space in yourself and perhaps with others to explore and stay connected to what YOU like, want and desire.