Check out Director Jesse Kahn Talking With HuffPost About Masturbating Without Porn
Check out Director Jesse Kahn talking with Brittany Wong at HuffPost UK about the power of fantasies while masturbating.
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“Everyone can benefit from mixing it up with masturbation and putting more emphasis on personal fantasies, said Jesse Kahn, director and sex therapist at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center.
‘Anything can start to feel stagnant or unexciting if it’s repeated over and over without any sort of variation, including porn,’ he said. ‘Trying to get off in a new way, such as without porn, can help you get more creative, tap into desires that get overlooked, and learn new types of pleasure. It can also make porn more exciting when you get back to it!’”
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“‘You’re masturbating without porn, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use your porn preferences to fuel your fantasies.
‘Ask yourself: What kind of porn do you usually watch? What about it turns you on? What fantasies of yours does it fuel?’ Kahn said. ‘Taking some time to reflect on our fantasies and desire can help us come up with new ideas to try, new sensations to seek.’”
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“‘Visual porn isn’t the only erotic tool at our disposal,’ Kahn said. ‘If you want to take a break from your usual porn habits, there are a variety of other types of erotica! Things like written erotica or audio porn can engage new ideas, feelings and experiences that we don’t get from visual porn.’
Because neither written nor audio porn have visuals, Kahn says ‘they can create different spaces for imagination and creativity, which can energise our inner sense of eroticism.’
Here are some good places to find nonvisual erotica, according to Kahn:
Dipsea (audio porn)
Bellesa (written erotica)
Quinn (audio porn)
Literotica (written erotica & audio porn)
LushStories (written erotica)
SoundsOfPleasure (audio porn)”
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“‘If you have a current partner (or partners), talk to them about their own self-pleasure habits,’ Kahn said. ‘What do they like? How do they mix it up? What are their fantasies? Hearing ideas from someone else can get your mind into brainstorming mode.’
Both of you should get your creative juices going. That’s what sharpening your erotic imagination is all about.
‘Eroticism is rooted in creativity,’ Kahn said. ‘If we don’t give ourselves a chance or a challenge to get a little creative, we may not allow ourselves to fully experience the erotic potential we hold within ourselves.’”