G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn and Therapist Symonne Kennedy talk with Kelsey Borresen at HuffPost about 12 Things Sex Experts Always Keep in their Bedrooms
CHECK OUT G&STC’S DIRECTOR JESSE KAHN AND THERAPIST SYMONNE KENNEDY TALK WITH KELSEY BORRESEN AT HUFFPOST ABOUT WHAT EXPERTS RECOMMEND TO TAKE YOUR SEX LIFE TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
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“Because contrary to what the majority of shows, movies, books, music and other media are willing to depict, sex sometimes does require a little preparation!” — Symonne Kennedy, psychotherapist at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center
Dimmable lights
“It’s nice to be able to see when hooking up, but it’s also nice to not have offensively bright lighting. Additionally, different people have different levels of comfort with being seen. So when we have the ability to alter and dim lighting, it allows us to play with seeing and being seen in ways that feel both comfortable and sexy. This can mean a dimmer, sure, but it can also just mean various types of lights and lamps that have a softer light.” — Jesse Kahn, sex therapist and director of The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center
A TV
“Many people disagree on the matter of whether to have a television in the bedroom or not. Personally, I am someone who enjoys being fully reclined with pillows while watching TV. In my bed, I am transported from the rest of the house and the added bonus of a television allows for consuming TV in maximum comfort either in solitude and peace or with company and increased cuddle potential. Reruns like ‘The Nanny’ or ‘Family Guy’ have also been historically helpful when I’ve needed a little extra help drifting off to sleep at night.” — Kennedy
A notebook
“I like to have a conversation with my partner (or partners) about language used during sex. This conversation could look like sharing what words and phrases we might use to communicate when we want to pause or stop, when we’re enjoying what’s happening and want to encourage more or continued play, or when we want to check in about how the other is feeling.
Because I am so visual, I sometimes keep notes on these conversations in the bedroom as a reminder — not necessarily to look at with any specific frequency, but as a reminder of the conversation itself so as to be mindful of the differences and similarities in communication style. It also serves as a reference point for any additional conversations on this topic, as it is one that has potential for additional input, feedback, thoughts or feelings as new experiences are had.” — Kennedy
MORE FROM G&STC DIRECTOR JESSE KAHN ON THIS TOPIC:
Lube: lube really just makes so many things better. Even if you feel your body produces enough lubricant, try lube.
Sex toys easily accessible: whether this includes crops, restrains, dildos, vibrators or whatever - it’s ideal to have your favorite sex toys easily accessible!
Condoms! Regardless of the type of dick you’re using a condom on, have condoms easily accessible.