G&STC's Director Talks with Tinder Swipe Life About a Holiday Survival Guide For Newly Out Queers
CHECK OUT G&STC DIRECTOR, JESSE KAHN TALK WITH KAI AT TINDER ABOUT A HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR NEWLY OUT QUEERS!
A few highlights include:
Set boundaries ahead of time
“Be aware of your boundaries, and plan on how to set and maintain those boundaries,”
“Connect with people that you feel loved and supported by.”
Have a chosen family group chat:
“Connect with people that you feel loved and supported by […] If there aren’t people where you’re going, stay connected to them via technology.”
Remember the good
“Create a list of reminders that you keep on hand during particularly stressful times. These could be about your boundaries, self-worth, family dynamics — anything that you want to hold on to.”
“Create a list of reminders that you keep on hand during particularly stressful times. These could be about your boundaries, self-worth, family dynamics — anything that you want to hold on to,”
Do what you gotta do
“Your family member’s beliefs are their beliefs — they are not truth, they are only how that family member sees the world. Your truth is valid and worthy of belief.”
Practice aftercare
“It’s an opportunity to give yourself the time and attention you need to return to a place of feeling grounded, safe, comfortable, nurtured, and taken care of.”
“Aftercare gives you the opportunity to return to your reality outside of the recent experience.”
The other tips Kai includes are: bring a buffer, take time for yourself, and know that opting out is always an option.