G&STC's Director Talks with Tinder Swipe Life About a Holiday Survival Guide For Newly Out Queers

 
 

CHECK OUT G&STC DIRECTOR, JESSE KAHN TALK WITH KAI AT TINDER ABOUT A HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR NEWLY OUT QUEERS!

A few highlights include:

Set boundaries ahead of time

  • “Be aware of your boundaries, and plan on how to set and maintain those boundaries,”

  • “Connect with people that you feel loved and supported by.”

Have a chosen family group chat:

  • “Connect with people that you feel loved and supported by […] If there aren’t people where you’re going, stay connected to them via technology.” 

Remember the good

  • “Create a list of reminders that you keep on hand during particularly stressful times. These could be about your boundaries, self-worth, family dynamics — anything that you want to hold on to.”

  • “Create a list of reminders that you keep on hand during particularly stressful times. These could be about your boundaries, self-worth, family dynamics — anything that you want to hold on to,” 

Do what you gotta do

  • “Your family member’s beliefs are their beliefs — they are not truth, they are only how that family member sees the world. Your truth is valid and worthy of belief.” 

Practice aftercare

  • “It’s an opportunity to give yourself the time and attention you need to return to a place of feeling grounded, safe, comfortable, nurtured, and taken care of.”

  • “Aftercare gives you the opportunity to return to your reality outside of the recent experience.”

The other tips Kai includes are: bring a buffer, take time for yourself, and know that opting out is always an option. 

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