G&STC Director Jesse Kahn Talks with Kelsey Borresen at HuffPost About Sex Questions You Probably Haven't Asked Your Partner
Check out G&STC’s Director Jesse Kahn talking with Kelsey Borresen at HuffPost about some sex questions you probably haven't asked your partner, but should.
“4. What do you think about when you masturbate?
Learning more about your partner’s solo sex routine can offer a glimpse into their sexuality.
This might include ‘what they like to imagine, how they like to touch themselves, if they use toys, and how they get themselves excited,’ said sex therapist Jesse Kahn, the director of the Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center in New York City. ‘You know what they’re like with you, but learning more about their solo sex life can help you get to know their desires better and enrich your time shared.’”
“13. Do you like to be touched anywhere I don’t know about?
The genitals, breasts, nipples and butt are all common erogenous zones. But so are places like the neck, ears, wrists, inner thighs and lower back. You may not know all of your partner’s sexy spots unless you ask.
‘Your partner might be sensitive on other parts of their body you wouldn’t think to pay attention to,’ Kahn said. ‘They’ve had a lifetime to explore their body, so they likely have some insight you don’t. And if they aren’t sure, the two of you can plan some time to explore different types of touch on different areas on one another’s bodies to find out together.’”
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More from G&STC Director Jesse Kahn on this topic:
What is your favorite thing we do now?
You may think you know what your partner likes best, but have you ever asked them? You may be surprised at what they say! And when you get talking about what they like best you can dive into why they like it which can inspire new ideas.
Are you sensitive anywhere I don't know about?
Many people have similar erogenous zones on their bodies (necks, wrists, etc.) but your partner might be sensitive on other parts of their body you wouldn't think to pay attention to! They've had a lifetime to explore their body, so they likely have some insight you don't. And if they aren't sure, the two of you can plan some time to explore different types of touch on different areas on one another's bodies to find out together.
What do you like to think about when you masturbate?
Do you know your partner's solo sex routines? What they like to imagine, how they like to touch themselves, if they use toys, how they get themselves excited, etc. You know what they're like with you, but learning more about their solo sex life can help you get to know their desires better and enrich your time shared.