G&STC Director Jesse Kahn Talks With Healthline About Rebound Relationships
CHECK OUT G&STC’S DIRECTOR JESSE KAHN TALKING WITH GABRIELLE KASSEL AT HEALTHLINE ABOUT REBOUND RELATIONSHIPS.
Real quick: What do we mean by ‘rebound’?
“There isn’t one universally agreed-upon definition for the terms ‘rebound’ and ‘rebound relationship,’” says Jesse Kahn, LCSW, CST, director and sex therapist at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center in New York City.
That means every dater, pleasure seeker, and situationship survivor has their own definition.
Is it possible to date someone without talking about what you’re looking for?
NOPE!
“In any relationship, you need to be clear and transparent around your wants, needs, expectations, limitations, and boundaries — and that stands for rebound relationships,” says Kahn.
Failure to (honestly!) communicate what you’re looking for is a recipe for hurt and mess.
Imagine this: Post-breakup you downloaded the apps and swiped yourself silly. You ended up finding The Perfect Rebound, and you two hit it off.
Only problem? You’re now a few weeks in and you’re realizing that you two have Real Relationship potential. In other words, you want to transition your relationship from rebound territory to potentially lasting.
“That’s totally possible,” says Kahn.
How? Communicating! In order for someone to know what you want, and where you want your relationship to remain at or evolve to, you have to tell them, they say.
“It can be really vulnerable and scary to communicate wanting more, but no one can read your mind and will only know if you communicate that.”